A Christian Woman’s Perspective: Journeying through the Season of Singleness

 

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Updated October 25, 2020

All too often, I have found that we single women in the church, who desire marriage, seem to think that God has passed us by when it comes to being blessed with a husband. We come to church, pray, tithe, worship, serve on committees, and want to have the company of a strong and loving Christian husband by our sides. 

And, with the COVID-19 pandemic, attending church in person has not been an option in a while. Therefore, meeting a potential mate is all that more difficult. This is not to say that you can only meet someone in the church. That is not true.

Each week we lose faith when the seat beside us we claim as our husbands remain empty. 

As the tears roll down our cheeks, we ask God, “Did you forget about blessing me with a husband?” 

When we hear the words, “You know, perhaps it’s not in God’s will that you marry,” makes things even worse. 

Then we engage in pity parties and depression sessions. 

Although it is not easy, we are to be relentless in our pursuit to live Godly lives, while remembering that we are not perfect and will make mistakes. When we stumble in life, we must remember to have self-compassion and avoid beating ourselves up. 

It is important to seek God’s will for our lives to prevent Satan from filling our heads with negative thoughts, which may cause us to doubt God. When loneliness is at its peaks in our lives, we must fast, pray, and read our Bibles even more. We should also ask someone to pray with and for us.

Being single should not prevent us from living happy, productive, and fulfilled lives. Most importantly, we must remind ourselves that being single is not a curse, as some people make it seem. It is time to thank God for this season because it will be different to consider a husband’s needs rather than just our own. 

And let us be real, some of us, including myself, can be selfish at times.

As Pastor Noah Filipiak states, "The grass isn't greener on the other side, it's greenest where you water it, even for singles."

During our season of singleness, righteous living should be a priority so that we can begin pursuing our goals and dreams. This will not happen if we are having pity parties with ourselves and other single women about the shortage of available men and how terrible the ones are in which we have been in relationships. 

In lieu of the pity party trap, God wants us to do what is necessary to build His kingdom, and not tear it down. This time of singleness is to focus on God’s will for our lives.

As single women, changing our mindset about singleness is necessary. This season in our lives is better spent to thank God for using this time to prune and prepare us to do a mighty work for Him. 

When God feels that we are ready, we will be introduced to our potential husband and we will then be ready to welcome him with open arms. 

I hope that you've been encouraged as you are journeying through the season of singleness...